Over the years, we’ve all gone through our own tapestry of life, experiencing different patterns and colours of various activities. Some are good and some are not so good but that’s life and we all know it. Different people experience different circumstances and we all manage them differently. Our cultural background, environment, upbringing, education and circumstances influence what we do and how we deal with everything that we go through. My version of the stories would be unique to me and yours are unique to you but hopefully we can share and learn from each other.

Significant Life Experiences that made me wonder why and how they even happened.

I have experienced and learnt a few significant life lessons that have made significant changes in my life. I wish to share a few of them with you with my hope that they are useful to you too, although, unless one experiences something themselves, one can never exactly know how it feels and how it affects them but here are some of my experiences.

I grew up in Indonesia in a stable family environment with a very good family background and upbringing. We had very strict values where my parents set upon me. The only thing my parents never stopped me do was learning, which was the most valuable part of life activity I had then and still do now. I feel grateful that I’ve always been able to learn something new, with full responsibilities in also doing what I need to do happily as a good contributor and citizen.

Without consciously knowing it I had bigger things in mind than I even realised. I didn’t even know what they were, I just used to always love learning new things and achieve more each day, for no particular reason, it’s almost just part of why and how I breath.

Well…, I did extremelly well at school and wanted to study architecture at the Institute of Technology Bandung but that never happened. I did office management, secretarial and languages instead. I did have a conscious decision making, telling myself that these skillsets would give me a job sooner and are flexible being able to travel with them using those skills anywhere in the world immediately. It’s a strange train of thought, even though I had no particular conscious plans to go and or live outside Indonesia but for some reason I migrated to Australia in early 1984 after getting married to an English-Australian man in 1984.

Without realising at the time those things happened, after I looked back much later in life, I noticed that so many things if not everything happened to me as results of my own thoughts at some point in my life prior to the events happening. I trully believe in that, as I have had so many incidences that have become too many to be called coincidence

For instance, my decision to take up office management skills with reasons to be able to have flexible skillsets anywhere in the world was formed when I first met international exchanged students whom gave me inspiration to see other parts of the world and to meet different people from other parts of the world. It was an unconscious thought and it was a thought, a wish and a dream without knowing how I would ever be able to achieve it.

Another obvious event is about the age when I got married. When I was 17 or 18 I picked up my cousin’s magazine. In it, there was an article, which I can’t remember what the title of the article was but I read it and amongst many things, I remember reading that the ideal age to be married was the age of 25 and the ideal age to have your first child is the age of 26. I can’t remember any other details of the article. Who knows where that came from and why but I must have agreed with the idea and thought it was a good thing and wished for it to happened to me. That’s my theor anyway, cos, guess what..?

After experiencing having a few boyfriends in my late teens and early 20s with nothing serious happening, by the time I turned 25 years of age, when I met my now husband of 32 years, I started taking things more seriously. As soon as he showed his serious intent for a long term relationship and asked if I would marry him, I was able to make a good decision. The fact that I really liked him and after I learnt that he was genuine, kind, caring and loving, I felt confident that he was the one and I said ‘yes’. So we got married only after knowing each other for 3-4 months. For some reason I felt as if I had known him for years. We both felt comfortable with each other and enjoyed each other’s company, feeling secure and happy. So why would you waste anymore time?

Anyway, I got married at the age of 25 to a kind, honest, caring and loving man of 26. We’ve been married for almost 32 years with 2 beautiful children and 2 beautiful grand children. And guess what? I had my first child at the age of 26 and our first daughter also had her first child at the age of 26. So I guess, it happened, because one day when I was 18 or so, I must have subconsciously thought that it was what I wanted to happen to me in my life and the universe delivered. I believe that this is because my subconscious mind worked toward attracting what I wanted.

I actually lost count as to how many things so far in my life where those sorts of things have happened, whether it’s my jobs I have had, parking spots, material things like the type of cars we’ve had, the type of friends I attrack and many more. This is the reason why I believe in the law of attraction and I am keen to keep training my mind to think about what I want, rather than stressing about what I don’t want. It’s easy said than done, not as simple as it sounds actually. This is because our subconscious mind has it’s own agenda, depending on our upbringing, environment and habits.

We need to train our mind to attract what we want.  One of the techniques is undertaking hypnotherapy sessions, allowing your subconscious mind to listen to powerful guidance, using advanced neuro linguistic programning. Other things you can do is surrounding yourself with highly motivated and positive people and focus on good habits.

Why don’t you look back on the things you have achieved and see if you remember if one day in your past, you had actually wanted them badly, so your mind and body just worked toward achieving them. You will probably find many things. For that reason, why don’t we program our subconscious mind to attract all the things we want and avoid things we don’t want. Let’s start and see what happens.

If you need assistance to do it, let me know, as I can give you a few techniques you can use.

Happy Life is when you achieve what you want and now you know how to program it.

 

 

 

 

Today is the first day of 2016 and my day was filled with so…much love already. I hope yours was the same.

I do believe that love comes from within. If you give love, feel good about yourself and appreaciate everything you see, hear, eat, drink and receive, you will feel loved.

On this first day of the new year, the weather was a little cooler when I woke up this morning comparing to the rest of the week. I had a good sleep last night and woke up feeling fresh. My husband asked if I wanted to go for a walk while it was still cool. The temperature was around 22 degree celcius comparing to the high 30s as it has been all week.

We love going for a walk together whenever we can as we live near the ocean and the river mouth, so walking in the area is quite relaxing. We usually chat about nice things like our next holiday plan, family activities, what we should do with our garden/house or just talking about nothing sometimes. Just having a chat while walking by the beach looking at the calm blue water is what we enjoy.

We walked from our home to the jetty near by and around the little town where we live. It was about 8 AM but there were already a lot of people at the beach and at the local cafes having breakfast, so we stopped at one of the cafes for a cup of coffee as well, just to absorb the peaceful atmosphere while we continued chatting. We had a really good start of the day for sure.

As the weather was so nice, we thought it would be good to bring our grand children to the beach. So we walked back home, made and ate cooked breakfast and went back to the beach with our daughter and grand children aged 4.5 and 3. They love going to the beach and it is such a blessing seeing them play with so…much joy. We stayed down at the beach for a couple of hours and it was just the right time for lunch after that. Our grand daughter came up with fish and chips for lunch and of course my husband (their poh poh) quickly agreed. So that’s what we had. We called our local fish and chip shop, picked them up and took them home to eat in our garden with some home made salad. It was a nice lunch.

About two hours later, we decided to go for a drive with the children to give their mum a little break. We drove a long the esplanade about 45 minutes south from home. The children had a nap in the car which was a good thing so they could play happily without being tired and grumpy. We had another good walk, took them to a play ground and had ice cream after. We had fun while their mum rested at home.

When we got home, it was just the right time for dinner and a family chat at the dining table before bed time for the children. The children were quite happy going to bed by 8 PM even though they didn’t go to sleep straight away as they had a nap during the day.

So there you have it, the first day of the new year was pretty pleasant for us and hope that yours was also just as good.

What I haven’t forgotten is praying for and thinking about people who may not be as fortunate. I hope they are safe and manage to make their day reasonable comfortable.

God Bless Us All.